Chug a coffee and go anyway.
Asha, 39, cancels on her friends all the time.
As a speech therapist, she works with people all day and often feels talked out by 5 p.m.
Shell stick to plans for their major events, like an art show or performance.
But random nights out?
Fair game, she tells Bustle.
Were having an epidemic, she said in her video, referring to theloneliness epidemic.
… We say that we want friends.
We say that we want community.
But the thing is, you cant have community unless you show up.
Were showing up tired and socially anxious just like you.
If you are a chronic canceler, this is a call to [stop].
We want you there.
The creator@thefriendshipexpertagrees, and its why shes been trying to change.
Bailing not only lets your friends down, but it can also impact how you feel.
Kate, 27, a teacher in Pennsylvania, thought canceling was the ultimate form of self-care.
This is reflected in data, too.
Rest is an important part of self-care, but so is social connection, Rufino tells Bustle.
She adds, Maintaining community requires effort and reciprocation, which benefits everyone involved.
[In return], your friends will appreciate it and support you when you need it.
Would you actually feel refreshed, or would you perpetuate your boredom, anxiety, or fatigue?
Another way to break this habit is by slowly adding plans back into your life.
Rufino recommends going out once a week or once a month to see how you feel.
Hopefully youll get on a roll and out of a rut.
Source:
Maya Rufino, LCSW, therapist
source: www.bustle.com
